February 2012
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when I have children, I hope they never run home to me excited about winning a participation ribbon in a competition cause I will crush their misguided pride with much gusto and damn near no hesitation
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
Point being that white folks have convinced us that straight hair > natural hair. Black women found a way to achieve straight hair, some never looked back. But in all actuality, there is nothing unprofessional or unattractive about natural hair.
I see. I’m going to bed soon, we can continue this...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
Glad u said that. So which society do we live in? Which group controls it? We then are abiding by their standards. Lets go back in to time… like to the 60’s during the black panther movement. we were natural then. Relaxing has been around for 100yr
Yes Yes. I don’t really know what you’re...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
You asked if wearing clothes is a trend. It isnt. Its the law. So you are required to wear clothes. No one mandates that you have straight hair. Its a choice. I dont know what a water fountain has to do with permed hair, but…
No one mandates that you have straight hair but everyone is acting like...
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jesskilz asked: But I've missed most of the conversation, so maybe I totally missed the point lol
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jesskilz asked: Unless, of course, the person is truly not being affected and chooses to go against the norm, as you can see with radical feminism, ie. not shaving, cutting off hair, not wearing bras. Obviously there is an effort made to go against that, though.
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jesskilz asked: "I had joined that multitude of Negro men and women in America who are brainwashed into believing that the black people are “inferior”—and white people “superior”—that they will even violate and mutilate their God-created bodies to try to look “pretty” by white standards.” - Malcolm X in relation to hair. Most things are held to a...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
No, wearing clothes is mandated by the law. Catch a case if you want to.
But just because something is the law doesn’t make it right or necessary. Need I remind you that just 50 odd years ago it was illegal for a black person to drink from the same fountain as a white person…
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blackintellectunrefined replied to your post: blackintellectunrefined replied to your post:…
Oh of course not, because even as MOC as I am, I paint my damn nails; but if they’re like “tips”, you’re adding to what you lack for an effect - which is cool…(I don’t like fake nails either though)
What’s the difference? If you add makeup to your face you’re adding for what you lack as...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
did you catch the part where I said.. “But I agree that if you wear makeup its because you maybe trying to conceal or “enhance” your image. Which points to that you arent happy with… u”?
Yes I caught it, four times lol. So women who wear makeup are not happy with themselves. Got it.
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
I disagree. I believe perming your hair is the trend. Youre born with natural hair, someone convinces u that perming is ‘better’ so u do it. Then some reach a point where they realize there is nothing wrong with the way God made it.
Alright, the word trend is multi-dimensional though. I’m pretty...
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blackintellectunrefined replied to your post: blackintellectunrefined replied to your post: It’s…
Personally I despise the use of make-up, perms on women [I can take extension b/c it’s a protective hairstyle] - All of it is b/w self-loathing and habitual behavior/trend from youth -long story short -_-
If a woman paints her fingernails is she self-loathing?
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
Re read what I just said.
Yes I re-read it. I read it three more times actually. I’m asking you personally. If you apply makeup to your face are you saying you are unhappy with you?
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
Youre not answering the question — what is wrong with keeping your hair in its natural state? Thats the question. Also, how is it a trend when its what youre born with? Thats like saying “she’s black because thats a trend”.
There is nothing wrong with keeping your hair in its natural state, I hope I...
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blackintellectunrefined replied to your post: It’s all very entertaining on my dash lol and seeing all the Q & A’s keeps drawing me to your icon
I would get so in on the topic … but I could go for days (._. ) lol
Well feel free to join. Because I’ve literally been on it for days. People keep commenting on old posts and out of boredom I respond and then it escalates into this. At least...
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blackintellectunrefined asked: It's all very entertaining on my dash lol and seeing all the Q & A's keeps drawing me to your icon which I keep thinking "is cute"; But do you ever get tired of replying to people in matters such as these ?
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affectionateanarchy replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
She’s doing it cuz her mom started her on it at 11 and it’s been a habit for the past 26 years. Why mess with what’s working? lol
lmao these replies are killing me
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nonchalante replied to your post: Hello! I’ll try to answer your question with my seemingly irrelevent opinion. I don’t think a woman who relaxes her hair ‘hates’ herself.
tumblr would cut me out like an extended academy award speech.
lmao it made sense though
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vigorofthepeople-deactivated201 asked: I've been reading the replies to your question all day, and I am appalled. I personally think it is not the business of anyone else what a woman decides to do with her hair. Furthermore, I think it's self-righteous to accuse women who relax their hair or wear weaves of hating themselves. Who are they to do that? Why should it matter if she sews it, burns it, dyes it, locs it, braids...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
You just attached that meaning to wearing make up. Wearing make up (like wearing wigs) is temporary. But I agree that if you wear makeup its because you maybe trying to conceal or “enhance” your image. Which points to that you arent happy with… u
So if you wear make up, that means you’re not happy...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: unapologetically-black replied to your post:…
No, we cant say she hates herself. But we can say she doesnt like her hair. Let me ask you this… why is she perming her hair. What’s wrong with its natural state?
I don’t know, we would have to ask her lol. I mean reasons vary they really do. The same question could be asked to women with natural...
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nonchalante asked: Hello! I'll try to answer your question with my seemingly irrelevent opinion. I don't think a woman who relaxes her hair 'hates' herself. Why people relax their hair is for different reasons; some for manageability, some for style, some for God knows what. It's like saying white people hate their skin when they get a tan. Do they? Or do they just want that glow? &...
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unapologetically-black replied to your post: unapologetically-black replied to your post:…
And I’m not dodging your question. I’ve only caught bits & pieces of this debate. I respond to what I see. I said I’m sure there are women who perm & aren’t self-hating, but it’s very difficult for me to understand how someone could harm themselves &
I figure you’ve done much more...
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alwaystalking2myself replied to your post: alwaystalking2myself replied to your post:…
i dont think it is. i think we ALL need to be aware of the underlying issue then ask (OURSELVES) if we are falling prey to that issue or not. and if we arent - fuck what any1 else thinks after the fact. but U hav to be honest with URSELF n that’s all
I agree
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
If every 6 weeks you put a harmful chemical in your hair for the sake of beaauty, that’s not saying you’re happy with your hair.
Well… yeah. That’s kinda obvious. But if someone is not happy with their hair does this mean that they’re not happy with who they are? Some women put on...
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zilla-photo replied to your post: zilla-photo replied to your post: zilla-photo…
well, when you have time, read my post & tell me what you think. zillathakilla.tumblr.co…
I will certainly do so. I’m actually reading it right now… as you read this response lol
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alwaystalking2myself replied to your post: zilla-photo replied to your post: zilla-photo…
hmm i must need to look crazy too because it’s nothing cool about judging black women off their style choices…generalizing all based on a underlying issue that may or may not apply to one or many or some in their choices is crazy IMO -shrugs-
Good God thank you. This is what I’m getting at....
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unapologetically-black replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
It’s not “some.” It’s many, and all should be questioned… Or rather, they should question themselves. And if they use a few keywords, my antennaes definitely stick up; i.e. “manageable,” “nappy hair,” “good hair”
What I’m asking is this: If a woman never wears blue contacts, never bleaches her...
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zilla-photo replied to your post: zilla-photo replied to your post: zilla-photo…
You say its wrong to judge people by their hair and a majority of black women beg to differ. You look crazy asking all these questions. lol.
Lol I don’t care if I look crazy, I’m learning.
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
There’s a clear distinction between art & what youre talking about. There are no rules. There is nothing but free will. But we have to really asses why we do the things we do. Is it really what we want or what we’ve been conditioned to believe.
This is true. But this is another obvious statement that...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
Not once have I said they hate themselves. I said its a subconscious feeling of inferiority. There are women out there who wouldnt be caught dead with natural hair. They use all the negative connotations society has attached to our natural state.
I can agree to this but I never denied the fact that these...
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zilla-photo replied to your post: zilla-photo replied to your post: zilla-photo…
Haha! You are right, but majority rules. What is socially acceptable and unacceptable depends on the majority vote and the minority with his/her thoughts are the ones who are insane.
I can agree to this. I don’t really know how it applies to what I said but I agree lol
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unapologetically-black replied to your post: unapologetically-black replied to your post:…
No, but the hair is continuously damaged until you cut the processed hair. A wig can be removed. A perm needs to be cut out/off. I got your point, but “perm” is short for “permanent.” And I don’t think wigs & perms are comparable in that sense.
I understand what you’re saying, that makes...
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affectionateanarchy replied to your post: unapologetically-black replied to your post:…
Not gon lie, I totally thought that’s how it worked when I was younger. lol
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unapologetically-black replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
Actually, perm is “permanent,” unless you cut the hair or let it grow out and slowly trim the processed hair.
What I was saying with that is your natural hair will eventually grow in and you would be left with whatever choices to then deal with your hair accordingly. It’s not like once you relax...
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zilla-photo replied to your post: zilla-photo replied to your post:…
so then it boils down to are you happy with the current modified version of yourself? the action of enhancing or modifying yourself means nothing. it’s the underlying reason. i guess it comes down to you belief in actions done “just because.”
And that’s what I’m getting at with all of this. You as an...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
…I wear wigs. I do that because I want a change. But it’s not permanent change. When black culture can accept natural hair as the norm and not the exception your argument will hold more weight.
Relaxers are not permanent change either though. But do you know that although your hair is natural, a fellow...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post:…
I cant speak for everyone. But often when someone makes a permanent modification to their body that isn’t medically necessary or even artistically inspired — its because they dont like something about theirself. I’m natural and sometimes…
Alright. Now this is getting interesting. And I hope I’m not...
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zilla-photo replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: Well…
why isn’t a natural self, enough?
Alright can I just be frank and say that no one is their natural self? From the day we were born we’ve been messing with our natural self. If you’ve ever taken medication then you’ve messed with your “natural” self. If you’ve ever shaved...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: Well…
Would you change something you like or are happy with? It’s a subconscious feeling of inferiority. Thats where the problem lies.
That’s a good point. But can I ask you this: So if anyone decorates/changes any part of their body that means they are unhappy and therefore subconsciously feel...
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prettylipsdirtywords replied to your post: Well that’s like European standard of beauty that has become a part of African American society.
Its like asking why a woman gets a boob job or butt injections. They arent happy with their natural self.
So does wanting to enhance your natural self = self hate? That’s extreme.
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in an attempt to make African cultures seem “civilized” people are giving African nations and overall lifestyle an extremely westernized appeal. and although there are some aspects of African culture that now have western elements, that’s not the only way to show modern Africa as “developed.” from country to country we vary in clothing, build of homes, range from...
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words Tumblr has caused me to hate:
herp
police
privilege
institutionalized
this
adele
ignorant
opinion
fandom
activist
“conscious”
troll
honorable mentions:
nostalagia
beautiful
unique
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Sometimes doing the supposed “right thing” just isn’t good enough. I’m in a current situation where I’ve had to endure a lot and be extremely patient. But time and time again I have to ask myself what kind of patience am I practicing? Am I irritable and complaining all the time? Remaining patient but a drain to be around, constantly nagging and begging for a way out?...
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best-crisis-ever:
Disclaimer: Based on personal experience.
I really don’t think you can look at someone and just assume how much they love themselves. I think the reason people point so many fingers at one another and scream self hate is because of the excuses they’ve heard in conversation that they apply to everyone. For example, most of the girls I know wear make up because of some weird...
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Anonymous asked: Let me just say hair is just hair. All of your followers need to think about this. Why are there young Black girls who have NEVER consciously seen or felt THEIR OWN natural hair because mama decided to perm it as soon as she could. & then that same little black girl grows up not knowing anything about her hair other than perm, flat iron, gel. There is something wrong with that. You are...
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Anonymous asked: So referring back to last night's questions, whenever people ask you out on dates you decline?
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Does anyone know of a Tumblr that’s run by a person who’s 25 or older? I would like to follow them.