February 2012
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womyneosoul asked: Perhaps the argument isnt about loving yourself, but not loving a part of yourself, which is possible. However, the make-up argument isnt anywhere near the hair argument. Make-up is worn by different races, all sorts of people. And for the most part isn't racially charged, unless we're talking whitening creams. If I wear my make up, I don't wear it to look white or Asian or anything...
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kaerfamai asked: Why is it always the black women who have the problems though? If I wanna wear my hair in a perm then I'm going to. If you wanna go natural, more power to you. Since when is that self hating? You don't see people going around chastising white girls when they go out and tan. Having permed hair has nothing to do with "succumbing to whiteness." I never said I hated my hair. When...
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Anonymous asked: i need help, what would you say to a friend you havent talked to in a year and you want to talk to them again? The friend is an ex boyfriend i still want...
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xoxosunshyne replied to your post: hair is just hair. people take advantage of the natural hair movement to group themselves, to fit into a trend
Yess! Can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten dirty looks from ‘natural girls’. I wear my hair straightened because that’s the look I feel compliments my personal style the best..its NOT because I’m insecure or not in-tuned with my roots.
And the...
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anditmanifests asked: I hate hair conversation. ALOT of black women have insecurities and self hatred when it comes to beauty. But I would like to mention how annoying it is that every time a black woman makes a step it is politicized. We cant straighten, dye, add extensions or even manipulate our hair without someone making a stink. A wigless day is "revolutionary". Our bodies are "statements". We...
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Anonymous asked: why dont you do dates?
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allwhitemargiela-in-mecca asked: Well that's like European standard of beauty that has become a part of African American society. Black girls killing to get weaves so they can have straight hair. Will we ever see Nicki Minaj in her natural hair? Nah. I think Chris Rock's movie is pretty interesting, it basically talks about this topic. Forgot the title, but yeah.
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guccimani asked: the amount of arguments ive gotten into on blackness lately is crazy. blackness cannot be defined. to call someone who does their hair less black than someone with a fro is ridiculous and regressive of the black movement. live your life as you please; no matter what you do, YOURE STILL BLACK. theres no character traits, looks, or interests that make you blacker. get out of the self-made box of...
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Anonymous asked: damn. you pimpin. idk if youre being extremely sarcastic but that's cool.
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unapologetically-black replied to your post: lets spoon beulah.
Tell them back up off. You are spoken for (-_-). I don’t play that shit.
lmao. ooo fiesty.
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unapologetically-black asked: Last thing and I'll let you alone, lol: "When you go through all your life processing and abusing your hair so it will look like the hair of another race of people then you are making a statement and the statement is clear."--Assata Shakur
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unapologetically-black asked: --do in fact have a "processed mind." But will never admit it. What is wrong with THEIR hair? "Oh, it isn't "manageable." What the hell does that even mean?! For far too long, women with processed hair have made women with unprocessed hair feel shitty, calling them "nappy headed," etc. So, perhaps the superior attitude--though still wrong--is a reaction to...
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unapologetically-black asked: I agree that we all should be free to do with our hair what we choose, but I don't agree that "hair is just hair." Furthermore, the scalp is skin (obviously) with pores, and those chemicals are dangerous. Some do use the natural hair movement to feel superior... But NATURAL hair is not a trend. For far too long, Black women have been taught that what is natural to them is not...
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Anonymous asked: how many dates have you been on?
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Anonymous asked: lets spoon beulah.
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Anonymous asked: hair is just hair. people take advantage of the natural hair movement to group themselves, to fit into a trend, to feel like they are better than those with "processed" hair. they fail to realize that non-processed hair does not remove a processed mind. we all should be free to do whatever we want with our hair without dealing with judgement.
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allwhitemargiela-in-mecca asked: No, I don't think so. For two reason, society sets the standard and people's happiness are usually due to external factors not internal. With those two things said, I think self love starts where you start looking inward and don't focus on that. If tattoos weren't as popular, I doubt that people would deem them as attractive and most people won't get it. Etc etc.
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Serious question. How natural do you have to be to “love” yourself? If living in your natural state suggests true self-acceptance, does this mean wearing make-up is a sign of self hate? Are tattoos an indication of one not loving themself since it’s body modification, altering the body’s natural appearance? If someone dyes their natural hair are they still considered...
crackercolfer:
breaking news a teenage girl was cured of her clinical depression after seeing a webcam picture of a person smiling and holding up a piece of paper more at 11
extremists are the worst kind of people. they never want to listen to other people but wonder why no one ever listens to them. and they don’t even know they’re extremists, that’s the worst part. get over yourself and your stale ass beliefs
why do people sit through/endure things that they supposedly hate when they have an easy escape? like… turning the channel to another station, logging out of that website or turning off the radio? this perplexes me.
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I don’t understand why people say they don’t like drama. I love drama. We all love drama. But nobody wants to admit it. We all love that shit. That’s why the trashiest most drama filled shows, Jerry Springer and Maury, still air to this very day. It’s entertaining. I don’t like being in drama, most sensible people don’t. But I love drama. Love it. Everything has...
alright now I see how people decide to act ratchet and get caught up in some mess and when asked what they were thinking, the only explanation for their stupidity is “I was bored.” now I see where they’re coming from
“It seemed rather incongruous that in a society of supersophisticated...”
– (via unexpected-thoughts)
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vigorofthepeople replied to your post: sometimes I wish I could casually reciprocate the…
I feel you, but the best revenge is to continue to be kind to them and let God handle the rest.
I know but I’m tired of being nice to people who don’t deserve my kindness. Turning the other cheek gets tiring. I really wish I could tell people about themselves sometimes, but I just whisper...
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buttahlove replied to your post: there’s a thug in my life, how’m I gonna tell my…
GIRL BYE! LOL!
lmaoo. she gonna say it ain’t right… but he’s so good to me =/
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sometimes I wish I could casually reciprocate the evil that people so easily perform against me. but I can’t. that’s not me, and it’s not how I was raised. so even in my most heated of moments, I could never intentionally cause someone harm. or speak ill against them. and I hate that. because when people do me wrong, I want to see wrong done to them. but I know it’s not...
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there’s a thug in my life, how’m I gonna tell my mama? she gonna say it ain’t right. but he’s so good to me.
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“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with...”
– Maya Angelou (via aviancekwashington)
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Anonymous asked: can you further explain what you meant when you said that you started having "reservations about the dogmatic practices of religious institutions until my sophomore/junior year"?
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In Need of an Exodus →
africaisdonesuffering:
When it came to patriotism, no American citizen was as determined to scream his allegiance to the States as much as Eddy. Originally from Nigeria, he had come to the USA, a wide-eyed, overzealous foreign student; a sponge, willing to soak up everything about the much disseminated and celebrated American culture. It didn’t take long before he dropped his birth-name in favor...
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pleasantredolence replied to your post: I was sniffling in class this afternoon so my…
this whole story was shocking. and then he was okay with the fact that you’d return it?! maybe i’m just as new to this concept as you are though…
Right! And the only reason I told him that I would return it, is because he made a comment about his sister-in-law being rude because she would use it...
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alexisvictoria replied to your post: I was sniffling in class this afternoon so my…
you’re gross.
I prefer the term “nasty.” -wink-
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I was sniffling in class this afternoon so my professor handed me his handkerchief expecting me to use it. I was confused but my automatic response was to smile as I graciously thanked him. When he wasn’t looking, I glared at the handkerchief disgustingly like “What the hell? People share handkerchiefs?” I concluded he was nasty. His offering was offensive. And no one in the...
Learning to love my skin
neoafrican:
Colorism is real and is present in every corner and crevice of the African community, from the most conscious to the most oblivious. Being a Black, African woman of dark complexion with kinky hair and distinct West African physical features, there is no space (Black or White) I have entered without being subject to whispers, gazes, and even snickers. The journey to loving my physical...
Amy Winehouse’s voice was so raw and deliciously crass. It’s like she sang in a nonchalant state but at the same time had so much passion and emotion to her words. So rich and pure. Undeniable talent. Good music.
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my suitemate’s been on the toilet for 20 full minutes. i’m gonna have to bathe in a local pond for the next few days.
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Anonymous asked: does your voice still sound like how it sounded in your video? get better soon
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Anonymous asked: I think you're adorable, eloquent and inspiring. I have the biggest e-crush on you. Please tell me you're gay.
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perks of going to an all white school
you can make up stories about how your family in Africa is royalty and the white people will stare in awe and believe you
no one will ever comment on your ashiness, they don’t know what’s going on
you can do any kind of bizarre sudden movement in close enough accompany to the rhythm of any song and the white people will be amazed at your hip dance moves and attempt to emulate
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